The author/social critic and comedian, Lewis Black, once said, “What I find most disturbing about Valentine’s Day is, look, I get that you have to have a holiday of love, but in the height of flu season, it makes no sense.
In 1970 the movie “Love Story” was released. A tragedy, the film is considered one of the most romantic by the American Film Institute (#9 on the list and is one of the highest-grossing films of all time.) When people think of this movie, one statement stands out and always seems to be quoted. “Love is never having to say that you’re sorry.”
This line has been criticized or mocked, for suggesting that apologies are unnecessary in a loving relationship. Another character played by Ryan O’Neal disparages it in the 1972 comedy What’s Up, Doc?: in that film’s final scene, Barbara Streisand’s character says “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” while batting her eyelashes, and O’Neal’s character responds in a deadpan voice, “That’s the dumbest thing I ever heard.” I’ve been married 58 years, and in my house, my marriage wouldn’t have lasted 58 days if that had been my mantra.
I appreciate the description of love found in 1 Cor. 13. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. It doesn’t force itself on others, isn’t always “me first,” doesn’t fly off the handle, puts up with anything, trusts God always, always looks for the best, never looks back, but keeps going to the end.
Bread of Life’s message of loving our neighbors without homes was echoed by a student from Vista Magnet Middle School who wrote to us this week. He said, “who are we as human beings if we ignore others when they are suffering. People probably think homelessness is normal by now but it’s not. Love is the most painful thing to feel in the world yet is the most powerful thing in life that can make us change the world.”
God’s love is available to anyone who comes to our doors. Not everyone is interested, but it’s offered to all.